In part one of this two-part blog series, we went over some of the initial considerations to make if you're composing and/or delivering a eulogy at a funeral service. Being asked to give a eulogy is an honor, but it can also be a challenge given the grief you're likely feeling - but with the right approach, you can deliver a beautiful, memorable eulogy that helps to memorialize the departed.

At McDougal Funeral Home, we're happy to provide numerous caring funeral planning services, from casket or cremation needs to many other personalization services. While we went over themes like length, audience and proofreading in part one of our series, today's part two will look at some additional important elements to consider for any eulogy you're involved in.

Start Lighter

If you’re preparing a eulogy, you may want to open your speech with a few lighter anecdotes — stories and/or memories that are funny or endearing. It can be hard to ease into such an emotional situation, so starting off with something lighthearted and humorous can help set the tone while helping everyone in attendance take a collective breath.

For instance, you could begin by sharing a funny story about the deceased, recounting a time when they made everyone laugh or did something amusing. It doesn’t have to be elaborate — just one simple story can work wonders in easing the mood.

Practice Reading Aloud

At least a few times before the funeral service, take some time to practice reading your eulogy aloud. This will help you get more familiar with the words, as well as become comfortable with how it sounds and how long it takes to deliver.

Practicing also helps you gauge your delivery — do you need to slow down at certain points? Do any parts seem clunky or awkward? Where do you need to pause for emphasis? Practicing aloud also helps give your eulogy a more natural feel, rather than sounding stiff and rehearsed.

Make Eye Contact

When it comes time to give your eulogy, be sure to make eye contact with the audience every few sentences or so. Connecting with people in attendance not only helps you feel more comfortable speaking, but it also helps engage other mourners and make them feel included.

The key when making eye contact is to focus on individuals for a few seconds at a time — don’t dart your attention around the room too quickly. Just take your time and look at people thoughtfully — it will make a world of difference when you're speaking.

We hope these tips help anyone who's feeling anxious about delivering a eulogy for the first time, or just needs some additional guidance on a speech they've been struggling with. With the right preparation and practice, you can make sure your eulogy pays fitting tribute to the departed while helping everyone in attendance feel connected to the memories of their loved one.

No matter what type of service you're looking for, from burial options to cremation services and beyond, McDougal Funeral Home is here to help. Contact us today if you'd like to learn more about our funeral planning services or have any questions about honoring the life of your loved one in a meaningful way.